Divorce can create tension that affects the whole family.

If your parents were getting divorced, would you try to stay out of it, or would you be honest with your parents about how the other parent feels?

This woman is caught in the middle as her mom vents about her dad.

She doesn’t want to get involved, but her mom constantly pushes for information and emotional support.

So now, she’s thinking about telling her the truth. Should she?

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AITA for not telling my mom why my dad doesn’t want to talk to her.

I’m 27F. My mom is 53, and my dad is 60.

My mom and dad have been split up for almost 2 years now and are still working through getting divorced.

My dad isn’t talking to her though.

He has tried, but the majority of the time she is just toxic and mean to him.

This woman knows how toxic her mom can be.

She’s been blocked since October, and he’s using third parties to communicate and to give papers/items.

I know my dad isn’t lying. I’ve dealt with mean mom many times.

Having a calm, cool discussion with her can be pretty difficult.

She always acts oblivious and clueless about why she is blocked.

She feels awkward whenever her mom talks about her dad.

Whenever the topic of my dad comes up, she says: “I just don’t understand why we can’t talk like adults.”

Her being blocked by him shouldn’t be my issue, but she vents to me about it as if it is, and it feels so awkward.

She doesn’t want to get involved.

I never do participate in talking about it, but I can’t even mention my dad without her pouting about him not wanting to talk to her.

She asks about him often, but I always keep it vague because I know if I’m too honest, she will get mad.

Her mom keeps asking why her dad won’t talk to her.

My dad is getting ready to sell the house, and my mom really wants to help.

She has been asking more about my dad, asking why he doesn’t want to talk to her.

I know the answer, but I just tell her that he just doesn’t want to talk. I know if I tell her that he thinks she is toxic and mean, she will lose it.

Now, she’s wondering if it’s right to just be honest with her.

I don’t think it’s the children’s responsibility to send that message, but she keeps asking questions.

Wondering if I should just be honest.

Would I be the jerk if I tell her?

She should try to stay out of it, or should she be honest?

Let’s check out the comments of other people on Reddit to this story.

This user shares their thoughts.

Here’s a valid point from this person.

This person offers some useful advice.

Here’s another thoughtful suggestion.

Finally, short and simple.

Sometimes, staying silent is the kindest way to protect everyone involved.

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