When family members have kids, it is nice to step up and help them with babysitting.

What would you do if your sister kept treating you poorly and disrespecting you because you couldn’t babysit at the drop of a hat?

That is what the sister in this story experienced, so finally she said she couldn’t babysit at all anymore.

Her sister isn’t taking this news well.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITAH for telling my sister I can’t babysit anymore due to her blatant disrespect?

I (21F) have been babysitting for my sisters (37f) kids for 1 1/2 years.

She has two kids, aged 6 and 2.

The two-year-old has a genetic disorder and congenital heart defect. She has a G Tube, therapies 3-4x a week, medications, and feeds.

She is really doing a lot to help out.

The 6-year-old is completely healthy, and I would drop and pick him up from school and babysit him during summer break.

Her children were never the issue. Instead, it was their disrespect.

This is really rude.

They would give me certain hours to babysit, for example let’s say from 7-12. They’d usually be there by 2-3 without any notice.

I would brush it off – stuff happens.

They are being very unreasonable.

Then, they began asking me to pick up either child or both within a 5-10 minutes notice (my sister has another babysitter, who coincidentally lives 2 houses down from me) and I’d have to drop everything I was doing to pick them up.

My sister is an APN – so I didn’t fully mind, sometimes schedules run behind.

Wow, she is really going above and beyond.

Additionally, when I started working remotely, I would still babysit from time to time.

Then, her and her husband went to her work conference for 3 days and let me take care of both children by myself with no pay.

I love my niece to death, but she’s really difficult to take care of due to her medications and feeds. That ticked me off intensely.

I still never said anything.

Until now.

Her life (and priorities) are going to change.

I started a new job and went back to school.

My hours aren’t insane and I’m only taking two classes but they’re both classes I have to dedicate a minimum of 12 hours of studying or work outside of class time.

They didn’t even appreciate her.

I was so thankful to stop babysitting because of her blatant disrespect.

She would often call me useless, stupid, too slow, and that I was no help.

I didn’t just babysit, either. I cleaned the house, folded the kids laundry, changed sheets, etc.

This weekend was the final straw.

When do the parents even take care of her own kids?

She wanted me to babysit tomorrow since her husband was at a golf outing and she didn’t want to take care of her kids by herself.

Very common occurrence for her.

I told her on Friday that I didn’t think I could due to needing to prepare for an exam.

It seems like the parents are very entitled.

She got upset and told me off.

Today, I sent her a message.

In short, I just told her I couldn’t babysit anymore due to being spread too thin with work and school and I didn’t appreciate the disrespect.

Well then, it seems like everyone will be better off if someone else babysits.

She sent me a whole paragraph saying that I didn’t deserve respect since I was getting paid, and that I always cancelled last minute and I didn’t respect her.

Granted – in the last 1 1/2 years I cancelled 2x.

She told me last minute she had RSVPed for an event and I couldn’t babysit that day due to a family event with my boyfriend. She got upset and I offered to cancel, and she told me it was fine.

The second time was for tomorrow.

Ugh, people use this term for everything now days.

She said it was very unprofessional, which I totally agreed on and apologized for that despite the inconsistencies. S

he then proceeded to say I was “gaslighting” her.

Once more, I apologized and said my verbiage might have not been the best, but my only intention was to be heard and not start an argument.

She hasn’t replied.

AITA?

No way. Even if she wasn’t the perfect babysitter, she was still helping them out a lot and they didn’t seem appreciative at all. It will be best to stop babysitting at all.

Read on to see what the people in the comments think about it.

Yup, just be an aunt. Not a babysitter.

I agree with this commenter.

The husband needs to step up.

What is there to apologize for?

It should be this simple.

She needs a professional babysitter.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.