Imagine having a joint bank account with your spouse, but your spouse keeps giving money to family members without even talking to you about it first. Would you be okay with this, or would you be upset?

In this story, one wife is in this situation, and she’s furious! She has decided to put her money in a separate account, but she’s not sure if that’s the right thing to do or not.

Let’s see how their financial circumstances went from bad to worse.

AITA for separating my finances from my husband because he won’t quit giving his parents money?

Me and my husband have been together for over nine years and separating our finances never occurred to me until this past year.

I’m the saver and he’s the spender.

In the beginning it didn’t bother me because we had two incomes and wasn’t rich but lived comfortably.

Their circumstances have changed.

His family has always “borrowed” money from us but rarely ever pay that money back.

I personally don’t lend money not even to family but I do not stop him from lending to his.

A few years ago my husband was in a bad car wreck and can no longer work so I became the sole breadwinner.

He now gets disability but that was a four year process.

They’re in debt.

In that time we dwindled our savings to nothing and came close to losing everything.

Our debt mounted and there was nothing I could do.

When he received his back pay I only asked him to pay off his vehicle a loan in which I’ve paid over 50 grand on in the last few years and put some in savings.

He did neither. Instead he blew the money. Loaning over 10 grand to his family and paying nothing towards the debt we created.

She wanted to pay off the debt.

During this time I was able to save some money from my paycheck but not much and had plans to pay some debts off once I have enough saved.

He knew I was saving to do this.

About a month ago I noticed over 700 missing out our savings and I asked him what happened!?!

He replied with I loaned it to my parents.

She was furious.

I asked when he was going to receive it back because that money was already spent and I needed it.

He said I don’t know when they can afford to.

I blew up an lost my mind.

He didn’t ask me, we didn’t speak about it. He did it behind my back because he knew it would tick me off and I would say no if he asked. We had a huge fight.

It happened again.

I figured after that fight he would stop. But no…

Yesterday I checked my account and another thousand dollars was gone.

Gone where u ask? He gave it his parents.

I’m so mad I see red.

She no longer wants him to have access to her money.

I flat out told him that as of today I’m done with his parents. I’ll pay half the household bills buy our food and that’s it. If he wants to lend all his disability to them fine but I’m not gonna go bust my butt 60 hours a week so he can keep giving our money away.

So AITA for going to the bank and withdrawing all the money I put there and opening a new account he don’t have access to?

He seems to think I am and says that I should want to make his parents happy.

I would like to see them happy I just don’t want to pay for that happiness.

I’d be mad too! If he’s going to take the money without even talking to her about it first, she definitely needs to keep it safe in a separate account.

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this situation.

This person thinks she should’ve set up her own account a long time ago.

Another person thinks she’s making a smart decision.

This person is pretty sure the husband won’t end up paying his half.

His parents seem awful.

He seems to care more about about his parents than his marriage.

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