Mixing friendship with paid creative work can make even a birthday celebration financially awkward.

One baker agreed to make her friend’s custom cake after receiving a clear promise of payment.

That understanding suddenly became questionable when the birthday girl casually reclassified the entire order as her present.

Let’s see whether this friendship discount included the whole invoice.

AITA if I charge my friend for a cake

It’s my friends birthday in a few days, and months ago she asked me to bake and decorate her birthday cake.

She knows that I regularly bake and sell cakes, so have lots of experience in that area.

I said yes, because I have never baked her birthday cake before.

A kind gesture.

At the time, she said she would pay me for the cake, and I said sure no problem.

A few months later, we have still been talking about me making the cake for her and I was asking for design and flavour ideas which were all good, other than the fact she wanted a different shaped cake and I would have to buy a new cake pan and some other decorations to go on it.

Hopefully she didn’t give an inch and take a mile.

Last week we were again talking about her cake – her birthday being in two weeks time atp – she said you don’t have to get me a present since you’re making my cake.

Uh oh.

At the time I didn’t bring it up since we were in a group setting, and I’m a non confrontational person, but she said she would pay me so I still got her a present and the present had already been bought.

So I’m in a tough situation of wether to just ask her if she is paying me and cause an awkward situation, or just forget about it and give her the £80 cake.

I wouldn’t have charged her that much since she is my friend, that is just the approx value of the cake I would be making, and the £30 present.

Yikes, that’s a tough one. And given that the comments were divided, it would seem Reddit felt the same.

Some voted to just give the friend the cake.

Others said the exact opposite.

And many reiterated.

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A few felt both parties were at fault.

OP faced giving her friend an £80 custom cake plus a £30 personalized present after the friend quietly abandoned their payment agreement.

Commenters largely said she was NTA for charging, though several advised confirming prices upfront whenever friendship and business overlap.

The birthday girl ordered professional labor, specialty equipment, and decorations, then tried applying the highly exclusive “but we’re friends” coupon at checkout.