She Demanded He Cancel His Girlfriend’s 30th Birthday Trip for Her Casual Sunday Lunch—Then Accused Him of “Abandoning His Family”
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Moving away can make every remaining moment at home feel unusually important.
One young man’s final weekend became a tug-of-war between his girlfriend’s visit and plans his mother never mentioned.
That conflict intensified when she expected him to rearrange his schedule for yet another surprise responsibility.
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AITA for telling my mum she does not have free reign over my personal time?
“I (M22) recently got a new job quite far away for my hometown and am in the process of moving out of my parents’ house.
Last weekend I invited my GF (F22) to spend my last weekend living at my parents’ together.
When I told my mum (F42) this, she threw a fit, telling me I should have considered us two spending time together.
I’d have considered changing my plans around to make this happen but she was beyond rude to me, and more importantly, hadn’t actually planned anything for us to do.
More importantly, this wouldn’t be my last weekend at home, as I move out on Thursday and come back this Friday for Easter.
Jeez…
This past Friday, I reminded my mum about my GF coming over at 11 and she threw another fit, saying she had planned for me to help in the garden on Saturday and lied, trying to tell me I told her my GF was coming at 12 (which wouldn’t have been possible because my GF and I hadn’t made any solid plans until a few days before).
Shortly after, she also said she had planned for us to go bike riding, but reduced it to to just helping in the garden when she found out my GF is coming.
His mom is full of it..
Issue is, she informed me about absolutely none of this until a day before. My mum has a nasty habit of making plans and not telling me about them.
Literally this past week, she didn’t tell me my dad is going abroad for about 10 days and that she had signed up to work late, so she needed me to move my moving out date so I could be home to take care of her dog, all while complaining that I never help her do anything but I do help my GF when she needs it.
He finally put her in her place.
I ended up telling her that my time is my own, and she cannot just demand I spend time with her/help her out whenever she wants because I could have already made plans.
She countered this by saying if her parents had told her to do something, then that was that and her plans didn’t matter (My mum was raised in a Communist country with Christian parents).
AITA?
Should I have cancelled on my GF?”
And here’s what readers had to say on Reddit.
This person said he’s NTA.
Another reader agreed.
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This individual shared their thoughts.
Another Reddit user spoke up.
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And this person had a lot to say.
OP told his mother that his personal time belonged to him and she could not demand help around plans she never communicated.
A calmer conversation and some advance notice could have preserved their time together without treating his schedule like a blank family calendar.
Mom kept booking invisible appointments, then acted shocked when OP missed meetings he was never invited to.
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