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Sharing a birthday can feel special until one person loses every choice about the celebration.

For one teenager, the yearly party has slowly become completely centered around her grandmother.

That frustration finally came out during a private conversation that another relative overheard.

Check out the full story below.

AITA for saying I don’t like sharing a birthday with my grandma?

I (17F) share a birthday with my paternal grandma, and we naturally share a party.

After about 8, I stopped having a say in anything about the party — it’s now just what my grandma wants to do.

This teen really doesn’t get much say at all over her special day.

I pretty much only get to decide some of the food that’ll be served during dinner and the cake.

My family just hangs out at her house and cooks the whole day.

I have asked my parents about going out with friends, but they always say no since I should be spending time with my “twin.”

Whenever she tries to interject with something she wants to do, her grandma always shuts her down.

I’ve asked if I could invite some friends over for the party (not a lot, just one or two), but that was shot down because my grandma doesn’t want strangers in her home.

I’ve asked if we could host the party at our house, and I got told yet again no, because my grandma doesn’t like our couches.

So this year, she couldn’t hold in her feelings any longer.

During the party, I was outside venting to my sister, telling her that I didn’t like sharing a party and that I wished we had different birthdays so we could celebrate individually.

My aunt overheard me when she was coming outside and told everyone.

Was it stupid to vent out loud at the party? Yes, but hindsight is 20/20.

Of course, her aunt didn’t understand at all.

Everyone exploded at me — I was told I was ungrateful, that sharing a birthday is a blessing, that I broke my grandma’s heart, and that I was the AH.

I know what I said wasn’t nice and that I shouldn’t have said it where people could hear, but I just want to do something fun for a change. I don’t even mind spending the day with family.

Ever since, everyone has been short with me.

So, AITA?

Sounds like this teen hasn’t gotten the birthday she‘s wanted for a very long time.

What did Reddit think?

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This user seems surprised at the sheer lack of control this teen has had over her birthdays.

Is it really a “shared” birthday if they only get to do things her grandma wants to do?

It’s time to start being really honest about how she feels about sharing a birthday.

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Apparently there’s scientific research about this.

This teenager isn’t wrong for wanting some control over her own birthday after years of following only her grandmother’s preferences.

Her family could celebrate together and still let her see friends or hold a separate event without treating it like a rejection.

They shared the birthday, but Grandma somehow kept every vote.

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Chris Allen