January 16, 2025 at 12:15 pm

Mom Double Checks Daughters’ Bags After Her Husband Packs Them, And Once He Finds Out He Gets Offended At Her Second Guessing

by Diana Whelan

Source: Reddit/AITA/Pexels/ Ivan Samkov

When her husband took the initiative to pack for their twins’ vacation, this mom thought she’d save herself some work.

But old habits are hard to break, and a quick double-check by mom spiraled into a marital standoff.

Read on for the story.

AITA for checking my daughters’ bags after my husband packed them?

My (36F) husband (39M) and I are going on a brief vacation with our daughters (twins, 5 yo).

I was busy at work getting things done before I had to go away, and when I came home I saw that my husband had already packed our girls’ bags, which is something that I usually do whenever we leave town.

Thank you, but also, no thank you.

So I opened the bags to see what he put in there and to see if he hadn’t forgotten anything.

He asked me what I was doing, and I told him I was just double checking.

To my surprise he got mad.

He said I made him feel like I don’t even trust him to pack two bags.

That I sometimes complain that he could help more with the girls and around the house but I always take matters into my own hands when he tries to be proactive.

Relax, bro…

I told him he’s making a big deal out of this.

I was simply double checking – and thank god I did because he didn’t pack enough underwear and packed a sweater that doesn’t fit our daughter anymore.

He is now giving me the silent treatment.

Could I have been the AH here?

It’s a classic case of good intentions clashing with different standards.

Whether it’s about trust or just a parenting misstep, Reddit was pretty confident who was in the right.

This person says she had every right to do what she did.

Source: Reddit/AITA

This person says even adults have to double check their own stuff.

Source: Reddit/AITA

This person says although it wasn’t wrong, a communication issue might be the problem here.

Source: Reddit/AITA

He packed the bags, but he also packed the drama…

She might need to loosen the reins just a little bit.

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