Long-distance relationships with family can be hard to maintain.

In this story, a 02woman felt hurt after her sister said she didn’t want to visit her.

What started as a simple conversation about planning a trip quickly became emotional.

Even when they tried to clarify the issue, things became more complicated than expected.

Check out the full details below.

AITA for telling my sister it’s hurtful that she doesn’t want to visit?

My sister and I live on opposite ends of the states.

We were on the phone yesterday, talking about how I wish she could come up and visit.

I think she got defensive and said I never invite her.

This woman tried to invite her sister in the past.

I pulled up recent messages. I asked, “Can you come visit this summer?”

I also asked, “Can you come up to (insert town) soon?”

I guess that is not an actual invite.

The conversation escalated. She said that we are both always busy.

And that she does not want to come visit me and my boyfriend.

She felt sad that her sister thought she didn’t want them to visit.

It made me sad to hear that.

I do not live with my boyfriend. He would not have to be there. I told her this.

I asked if there was something specific that we could try to fix.

She said she is sorry if she hurt my feelings.

Due to their circumstances, it became hard to travel and visit one another.

We both have dogs that make it difficult.

She has recently moved in with her boyfriend. She manages the household.

She takes care of meals, cleaning, and the dogs.

This makes it harder for her to leave.

If they had to get a dog sitter or stay in an Airbnb to visit me with her boyfriend, she said she would have to pay for it.

She wasn’t mad at her sister.

I guess the option to visit me without him is not in the cards.

I totally get that. I understand it is different when you live with someone.

I said I am not mad or anything. I am just sad.

The reality is that we both have our own lives and responsibilities.

Now, she feels bad for escalating the issue.

Seeing each other takes a lot more planning. It is not as easy as it used to be.

I am feeling like the jerk for escalating this argument.

I am also feeling a little sympathy for her situation with her boyfriend.

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It makes it hard for her to do anything without him.

Aww… that’s honestly kind of sad.

Sometimes, life just gets in the way of good intentions even among growb siblings.

It feels like both sides care, but things just got misunderstood.

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Let’s see how others reacted to this story.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Here’s another honest opinion.

Don’t beat yourself up, advises this one.

This person makes a valid point.

Finally, another one chimes in.

It’s not a lack of love, just a lack of time and timing.