Imagine being a teenager living at home. If your dad criticized something that was important to you, how would you react? Would you defend yourself? Would you ignore him? Would you cry? Would you simply walk away?

In this story, one teenage girl has been in this situation over and over again with her dad. From a dress to a gift to whether or not to close the front door, her dad seems to criticize everything she does. She’s at the point where she’s not sure if she’s the problem or not.

And her mom definitely isn’t helping the situation.

Keep reading for all the details.

AITA for how I respond to my Dad

I’m 19F and my dad is well… my dad

So there’s been a few incidents.

A few weeks ago I was going to an 18th birthday party that had a business casual dress code. I decides to wear a turtle neck, long sleeve black dress that went almost to my knees.

Her dad didn’t like the dress.

This is the first time I’ve ever worn a dress and Dad was my ride just in case I decided to have a drink or two.

Mum approved the dress, she’s the one who picked it out.

I wasn’t showing anything, I had everything covered but he said he wasn’t going to take me when I was dressed like that.

I spent money to get dressed up, I made an effort. It was the first time I was going to see my friends in a long time.

She literally didn’t have anything else to wear.

He told me I needed to change but I didn’t have anything else. It was this or jeans and a work shirt

So I called my friend and his girlfriend and asked if they could pick me up and went with them

When I got home, my dad was being horrible to me about it

I lost my temper and told him to leave me alone, which I’ll admit was unnecessary but I was fed up

Here’s another time she clashed with her dad.

My friend gave me a hoodie as a gift and its brightly coloured and rainbow.

He looked at it and told me the bleach is in the cupboard when I want to wash it next.

He was fully aware it wasn’t intended to be for pride, that it was the only birthday present I had gotten from any of my friends, that I loved that hoodie so much that I cried when I opened the package.

There’s a very good reason she loves this hoodie.

My friend is 3000km away and still got me a birthday present so it meant a lot.

He was aware because we talked about it.

I got upset and broke down because it was the final straw after a long week at work

It seems like her dad has anger issues.

The other day I told him I was going to pick up some antidepressants and anxiety medication.

I shut the front door as I was talking to him and he yelled out of nowhere, telling me to leave it open.

I said that it’s a door, it can be reopened, please dont yell at me, as I opened it again.

I was walking away, trying not to cry because it was the first time I was picking up antidepressants

Why should she have to be the bigger person?

He looked at me, called me a witch and told me to go away.

I called him a jerk.

Mum then got upset at me and told me to stop being immature and to be the bigger person

She’s dealt with these types of problems for a long time.

All of this happened within the past 4 weeks and there’s so many times stuff like this has happened.

It’s all I’ve ever known and I’ve only just started to change how I react to him so I genuinely don’t know if I’m in the wrong here.

I’m so tired of blaming myself over and over again, I hope I’m not in the wrong but I need a second opinion.

Am I a jerk for not being the bigger person everytime?

She’s not doing anything wrong. Her dad is overprotective and has anger issues. Her mom is defending him. She’s the child. Her dad is the parent. Her dad should be the bigger person.

Let’s see if Reddit agrees.

This person calls the dad abusive.

Another person knows it’s the dad who messed up.

This is a good idea.

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Another person points out what it really means to be “the bigger person.”

Yikes. Her dad is awful. I don’t understand why he was mad about the dress or the hoodie. He made way too big a deal out of the door. I can kind of see why she needs antidepressants. It would probably be good for her mental health to live somewhere else.