July 7, 2023 at 9:02 pm

Woman Asks if She’s a Jerk for Not Putting Her Sister’s Wedding Expenses on Her Credit Card

by Matthew Gilligan

AITACreditCard Woman Asks if She’s a Jerk for Not Putting Her Sister’s Wedding Expenses on Her Credit Card

That seems like a lot to ask, don’t you think?

Asking your sister to put your wedding expenses on their credit card?

But was the woman who wrote this post wrong for not going through with it?

Read on to get all the details and see what you think.

AITA for not putting my sister’s wedding expenses on my credit card and humiliating her?

“I(27F) was the only person in my family to go to college and get out of poverty. My family is from a small town and we struggled a lot growing up.

I got out but it’s hard because I make a good salary now and my family expects me to share it. I still have student loans and bills to pay but they seem to think I’m rolling in money. I also bought an apartment in 2019 and when my parents found out they called me selfish and wanted me to pay for their expenses.

I have loaned money to my parents (about $800) and they “forgot” they borrowed money and claims I forgot that I gave it as a gift and said they didn’t need to repay.

My sister and I use to have a good relationship but once I left for college and did better our relationship got more strained. She got married and I came back a few days before the wedding to help her set everything up. We went to the grocery store and she bought $1700 worth of groceries as we were cooking it for the wedding.

Her card was denied and she tried a few but they were all denied. We stepped aside and she called the credit card company to find out she nearly maxed out her cards.

She started to panic and checked her accounts and found out she has $200 left in checking. I told her to check savings and she snapped back she didn’t have any and our mom checked her card and still had $600 so she said she would cover $600 and volunteered me for the other $1100.

I told them I didn’t have the money, I did but I don’t think my sister would have the money to pay me back. My sister demanded to see proof that I had maxed out my credit cards and I didn’t have any money in my checking and I told her I don’t have to give her proof I just don’t have the money.

She started crying and yelling at me that I was looking down on her for being broke and she knew I have the money I’m just being stingy. My mom started on me too telling me that people are staring and people are going to gossip about this and I was humiliating my sister for making it seem like she couldn’t even afford her own wedding.

I had enough and walked out and told them I’d had it with them expecting me to pay for everything. I walked back to my parents house and my sister sent me a text saying I was no longer welcomed to the wedding. I drove home without another word and I’m wondering if I should have just put the groceries on my card to keep the peace.”

Let’s see what people had to say on Reddit.

This reader thinks she’s NTA and that she needs to stop being an ATM for her family.

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Another reader also said she’s NTA and that she doesn’t owe her family anything.

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And one Reddit user said that her family tried to scam her.

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My opinion? Nobody should be forced to do this.