When you say the word ‘wedding’ you can be sure that some sort of drama is about to follow.

And one of the most common causes of wedding drama is the kid vs. no kid debate.

This issue is central to this story, in which a young mom can’t get her bridezilla sister to understand her childcare concerns.

Read on to learn exactly what happened.

AITA for telling my sister that I can’t go to her wedding without my son?

I am 24 years old and have a five-year-old son named Sam.

I had my son at a very young age, and his father, John, was very young too.

We have a healthy relationship to this day.

John is American and I am not, so we got married when I got pregnant so we could all live here in the US.

My family was not happy with my pregnancy and pretty much shut me out of their lives.

John’s parents very happily accepted me, but they are very old, and all the responsibility of caring for Sam falls on us.

This means no nights off, no frequent dates, and nothing that generally can’t involve Sam.

The responsibility falls especially on me since I take care of the household while John works long shifts.

Six months ago, my mother called me to tell me that my sister was getting married.

During a video call, my sister asked me to be her maid of honor, which I excitedly accepted.

However, when I received the invitation, problems arose.

Uh-oh. Let’s find out what happened next.

The wedding was to be in my country, and each guest was required to cover their own travel, lodging, and clothing expenses.

John offered to work overtime so that Sam and I could go, and after months of extra work, I managed to buy a nice dress and book a simple hotel room.

A month before the wedding, I called my sister to confirm our attendance, and that’s when she informed me that children were not allowed at the ceremony.

I told her that wasn’t specified on the invitation (it literally wasn’t written anywhere) and she said she hoped everyone would just take that for granted.

I explained that I didn’t have anyone to leave Sam with, and reminded her of our financial situation.

She suggested leaving him with John or hiring a nanny.

John works long shifts, and we don’t have the budget for a nanny for so many days just for a wedding.

Read on to find out how the sisters’ conversation progressed.

She compared the situation to when I hired a nanny during my father’s hospitalization, which seemed pretty stupid to me since it was a medical emergency and not a social event.

After an argument, I told her that I would have to decline my role as bridesmaid since I couldn’t leave my son.

I want to clarify that I never asked her to make an exception for Sam (because I understand that weddings are not places for children, I’m not an idiot just a person who doesn’t take things for granted).

I just wanted her to understand my situation AFTER I told her I couldn’t go.

She called me selfish and mentioned that she had already paid for my place in the wedding.

I offered to reimburse her with the money for the dress, but she just hung up.

Yikes. Let’s see if the sisters reconciled.

Now there are two weeks left until the wedding but I keep getting messages from her, calls to insult me ​​and emails arguing that since I live in the US I should have enough money for a babysitter.

Which at least in my opinion is totally ridiculous.

I got the money back for the dress and the hotel, and I plan to give it back to John unless my sister claims it to cover the wedding expenses.

But if she doesn’t… well, I don’t know if I should offer it to her again.

AITA?

Weddings can be stressful and all, but those are some daggers thrown by the bride.

Something tells me someone might be a little jealous of her sister’s life in the US.

Let’s see what Reddit thought of this.

This person agrees that the bride should have been more accommodating.

While others agreed that the blame should be firmly with the bride.

Another person speculated that there might be more to the situation than meets the eye.

And others suggested that the bride might be making some big and inaccurate assumptions.

In the end, this is just one in a long line of incidents for the young mom.

One misunderstanding would be one thing, but the way that she’s been systematically treated by her family back home is unacceptable.

Her family’s attitude is totally toxic.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.