Unless you hate your family, you’d probably invite them to your wedding, but sometimes family can be so annoying that they don’t actually deserve to be there.

In today’s story, one bride was going to invite her mom to her courthouse wedding, but when she called to invite her, she changed her mind.

Now her mom is furious!

Let’s see how the story plays out…

AITAH for not inviting my mother to our courthouse wedding?

Recently I have heard from some friends and family members who think I am TAH and some who don’t.

So I’m turning to Reddit for outside perspective.

I really don’t know how to handle this and I’m really struggling to find the words to explain my reasoning to those who don’t agree with my actions.

For a brief background: my mother has never been kind to me in private.

She always seems like the perfect mother to outsiders, but acts like a totally different person when others aren’t around.

She consistently makes comments on my appearance, weight, husband, and life choices.

In the past, she has called me names like “piggy,” said I look like a little boy, and has even commented on my husband’s appearance and weight.

She was originally going to invite her to the wedding.

All that said, we recently booked a courthouse wedding and were told that we could have guests beyond our two witnesses.

We had already invited my father, husband’s mother, and my brother plus his fiancée.

We were hoping that inviting her would remove the risk of drama and avoid making her upset over missing out on our wedding.

During the call, we hadn’t even gotten to the exciting part of inviting her to the wedding when she started commenting on how much weight I’ve gained.

She was never even able to get to the point of the phone call.

At this point, I gently tried to redirect the conversation, when she told me she hopes I never get pregnant because my body already looks “too fat” and it would make it worse.

She is fully aware that we are trying for a baby and have been struggling for over a year now to conceive.

I promptly hung up without inviting her to the wedding.

Her mom was upset when she found out she wasn’t invited.

We recently got a call from an aunt who had been contacted by my mother after she found out that we had the wedding without her.

She was absolutely livid and inconsolable asking how we could do such a thing.

I am exhausted and over being treated like garbage by my own family.

She feels conflicted about what to do because she does love her family.

I really don’t want to bad mouth my mother to her family or friends, but I also want them to understand that it is her own actions that led to this happening.

My husband thinks I should cut off anyone who supports how my mother has treated me over the years, as he says that they are aware of her behaviour.

I am so stuck because I love my family.

AITAH?

Her mom sounds really rude and mean.

I think she should be honest with her about what happened during the phone call where she decided not to invite her.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted…

Here’s a vote for cutting off the mother completely.

This person gives a suggestion of what to tell the mother…

Tough love might be the answer.

She needs to prioritize herself.

This person suggests only talking to the mother one more time.

If her mom had just kept quiet, she would’ve been invited!

This woman doesn’t deserve to be at her wedding.

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