His Nephew Has Dropped Out Of Family Vacations And Cost Him A Lot Of Money, So This Time He Isn’t Invited
by Ashley Ashbee
Travelling is a great bonding adventure for families, but the planning and execution usually come with some complications.
When people back out at the last minute, it can end up costing the planner time and money, and eventually, that will get under anyone’s skin.
See why the person in this story isn’t paying to bring his nephew along this time.
AITA for not inviting my nephew on vacation
For the last 20ish years, I’ve planned a family trip.
I love to travel and this is a way to include my siblings and their children (10 ppl) in my passion and a fun way to spend time together.
It’s already a big undertaking.
I cover the cost of the tour and transport to the destination and they cover the tips/incidentals. So far, we’ve gone to Turkey, South Africa, Viet Nam, Croatia, Panama, Mongolia and Iceland.
It’s typically about $4000-6000/person and requires months/years of planning and budgeting.
I poll the family on their availabilities about 18-24 months prior to the planned trip.
My nephew (late 20s) has RSVPed yes for the last 4 trips, only to back out at the very last minute (the week prior) such that I can’t recoup the cost of his fare.
The reasons he doesn’t make it are never acceptable for a travel insurance claim. (work emergency (he’s an accountant), friend’s wedding, concert tickets, high school 10 yr reunion)
So he has made a difficult decision.
I’m currently planning a Galapagos cruise for October 2026 and decided not to extend the invite to my nephew because he’s so unreliable.
Now most members of my family are outraged and, though not actually boycotting the trip, incessantly vocal on their displeasure at my ‘targeting’ my nephew.
I’ve tried to compromise by requesting that he give me a deposit with the plan that I return it if he actually comes but this only seemed to make people angrier.
I mentioned canceling the entire thing and now only my younger sister is speaking to me.
She tells me that the family is in uproar about my “selfishness” and discussing “writing me off permanently” if I actually cancel the trip. I’m in tears and just don’t know what to do.
I love my family.
AITA for excluding my nephew?
Here is what folks are saying.
This ought to shut their mouths.
Silver linings!
It’s only fair.
As simple as that. SO entitled.
Not unless you warned them first!
Make sure you don’t send him a postcard.
He doesn’t deserve one.
If you enjoyed this story, check out this post about a daughter who invited herself to her parents’ 40th anniversary vacation for all the wrong reasons.
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