Going on a trip for your birthday can be a lot of fun, especially if it is to a great destination.

What would you do if your mom booked a surprise trip to Morocco for your birthday but then you found out that it was also to go to a wedding for a family member?

That is what happened to the birthday girl in this story, so she feels like this isn’t a gift for her birthday at all.

Let’s read all the details.

AITA? I refused to go on my “birthday trip” with my family

AITA, I got a text randomly from my mum saying she had booked for us to go to Morocco on my 20th birthday with the family.

Sounds great right?

Absolutely not.

I bet mom booked the flights and then realized it was her birthday.

I come to find out that she had actually booked the tickets to go to my step sisters wedding in Morocco to marry a man she has known for 3 months.

The marriage is a complete sham, my step sister and this mystery Moroccan man had previously agreed to get married so that he could get a visa, allegedly they fall in love (all within 3 months) and now it’s genuine?

It also turns out that we leave Morocco the morning after my birthday and my mum “couldn’t book any other flights” (she could they were just on sale so more convenient for her I guess).

This is all about the wedding, not the birthday.

She also didn’t give me a heads up or a choice in this so essentially she was content with ditching me on my 20th birthday (a big one in my opinion) to go to this fake wedding with a women she barely sees and a man she’s never met.

My birthday would be rushed and spent packing our bags for the day after.

I would have had to also spend the whole week hearing all about this wedding I don’t even agree on and living under the same roof as my stepdad and other step siblings I don’t get on with.

The birthday was an after thought.

It all just feels like it’s been rushed, poorly planned and is convenient for my mum because she gets to cram my birthday in at the end of it.

To make matters worse she said it’s too complicated and stressful if I bring a friend when I asked, which is weird as I should have at least one say in what happens on my big day.

She also called me very selfish and self centered because I refuse to go.

But I’m okay with being selfish on my birthday.

I see her side to it but equally I’m angry and upset.

It sounds like this was more about mom than the daughter for sure.

Read on to see what the people in the comments on Reddit say about this.

Just tell them you already have plans.

Yes, celebrate the way you want.

This commenter says she is never required to go on a trip she doesn’t want to go on.

This person thinks it could be really dangerous.

The birthday was an after thought.

This mom has suspicious motives.

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