Imagine moving into what you think is a nice, quiet neighborhood, but then you find out that one of your neighbors likes to throw loud pool parties. What would you do if the noise were so loud that you couldn’t work while working from home?

In this story, one woman is in this exact situation. She tried to be neighborly about it, but she’s pretty sure the neighbors don’t like her. She’s also pretty sure they’re not going to turn the music down just to be nice.

Now, she’s considering calling the police. Is that going too far? Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AITA for considering calling the cops on my neighbors and starting a neighborhood war?

I (f25) and my husband (m24) just bought our first house earlier this year.

It’s in a small neighborhood out in the middle of nowhere and we loved it immediately.

We later found out that our neighbor behind us tends to throw lots of pool parties and play music super loud.

Aparently a couple of older couples have actually moved because of it, and other people in the neighborhood just put up with it.

How bad is this music, really?

My husband is super sensitive to noises where I am pretty chill and could sleep through a hurricane – so we waited until the first music party to decide how bad the sound level actually was.

Turns out, it is not the volume of the music – it’s the bass they have. It vibrates a lot and that’s what we can/feel in our house.

Today was the first day we heard it/had an issue with it.

It was during the day but I work from home full time, and it was to the point where it was disrupting me while I worked.

The neighbor doesn’t seem to care.

I have already met that neighbor one time and she didn’t bother to say “hi” during our introduction – she just gave me a nasty stare and continued talking to my other friend (don’t worry my friend asked her what her problem was). So I was a little nervous just to walk over there.

I found her on the neighbor FaceBook group and send her a friend request and a message asking her if there was a way to turn the bass down a couple notches while I finish my work day.

She completely ignored my message, and when my friend texted her on my behalf (I don’t have her phone number), her response was “it isn’t late”…

I know it wasn’t and I appreciated that but it was causing my house to vibrate.

She tried again.

I tried to wait it out, but after a couple hours it was still pretty bad.

I went to her front door and rang her Ring, and I heard her turn her music down to check the notification. She turned her music back up and Ring notified me I was being recorded.

I walked back in defeat to ask my husband if I was being unreasonable.

I really liked the music she was playing, and I know during the summer there may be gatherings in the evening or parties in the weekends. But she wouldn’t even respond to me about just turning the bass down while I finish working.

She wanted a friendly relationship with the neighbors.

I wasn’t trying to throw a wrench in her day, I just don’t understand why it was so unreasonable for me to ask that?

We have heard some parties she throws lasts until 3/4 in the morning.

My husband said if she was blasting music past 11pm that we should just call the cops with a noise complaint and I honestly agree.

I was trying to be friendly and have that neighborly relationship.

She’s over trying to be nice.

If I could just message her “hey, it’s a little loud” and her go “sorry didn’t realize I’ll turn it down”, I would be fine.

I went to college. Sometimes you just don’t realize how loud it is.

But she blew me off multiple different times today, made it seem like I was unreasonable, and decided she didn’t like me/wanted nothing to do with me about a month prior to this.

So why should my husband and I keep trying to be nice and keep it between neighbors? Doesn’t make sense to me. AITA?

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Bass can be worse than volume. While her neighbor technically isn’t doing anything wrong, she is being inconsiderate.

Let’s see what Reddit suggests.

This person thinks it’s okay to call the cops.

Another person thinks it’s reasonable to want the neighbor to turn the noise down.

This person thinks all the neighbors should call the cops.

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Nobody thinks the neighbor is a good neighbor.

I lived in a neighborhood once that was pretty quiet except for our next door neighbor who would occasionally throw very loud parties late at night. We called the non-emergency police line on them every time, and they always ended up turning the music down. They would still do the same thing the next time though.

I don’t think it’s overreacting to call the police. If the neighbor won’t be nice, she can at least be forced to follow the law.

One neighbor is all it takes to ruin a quiet, peaceful neighborhood.