July 6, 2023 at 11:33 pm

Man Asks if He’s Wrong for Telling His Wife He’s Opening up a Separate Account For His Money

by Matthew Gilligan

 Man Asks if He’s Wrong for Telling His Wife He’s Opening up a Separate Account For His Money

People in relationships have all kinds of issues and money can definitely be one of them.

Especially if one person in a union does some shady business without your permission.

So is this guy wrong for how he reacted to his wife?

Take a look and see what you think.

AITA for telling my wife I would open a separate account if she didn’t get our money back?

“I 39M have been married to my wife 36F for twelve years. We have no children, but we do have a cat and a dog who we consider to be our children.

My wife has a sister “M” 37F who has made very poor financial choices and is now heavily in debt. She refuses to get a job and instead jumps from on MLM or get rich quick scam to the next, sponging off of relatives to make ends meet.

Both me and my wife work full-time. We each have separate accounts that we use for our “fun” money for hobbies or whatever we want. We earn almost the same amount of money, with me being a little higher, so I contribute 60% and she contributes 40% to make things fair and also so we each have about the same amount of “fun money.”

We also have a joint checking and savings account that we use for the household bills and household emergency fund (like when the water heater flooded the basement in the middle of the night). Both of us have access to the joint accounts, and if we need to use it, it is never an issue, so long as we make sure to tell the other that we used funds from those accounts.

As I was going through the statements for our joint household account, I noticed that there was approximately $2,000.00 missing from the joint savings account. I noticed that they were all Venmo transfers to her sister.

When my wife came home from work I asked what this was about, and she told me that her sister needed money to start her own business. My wife sat me down and explained to me that her sister joined yet another freaking pyramid scheme, this time selling fake nails and makeup. She said that she has the potential to earn six figures a month. My wife also said that she too was going to join her sister selling these products and if she made enough would quit her job and sell them full-time with her sister.

I told my wife that she either needs to get that money back from her sister or I would open a new account for my share of the household expenses and transfer it to that account when it was time to pay bills. My wife is upset with me and does not understand why I am being so unsupportive.

I told my wife that not only did she take money and not tell me about it, she invested it into something without even considering how I would feel about it.

My SIL called me last night and said that I was a raging AH and a control freak and that I was stopping my wife from using her full potential. I told my SIL that I would support my wife in anything she chooses to do, as long as it would not cause financial harm to our family. My wife and SIL are both p*ssed at me and now I feel like an *ss.

AITA for telling my wife to get the money back?”

Well, that certainly was interesting…

And here’s how folks on AskReddit responded to the man’s story.

This reader said that he should tell his wife to go get the money back from her sister.

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And one Reddit user asked why his wife doesn’t realize that this is a pyramid scheme.

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Another individual said he’s NTA at all.

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It’s so tough when people aren’t good with money. Makes things so hard to manage.