June 7, 2024 at 5:26 am

Her Stepdaughter Called Her A Gold Digger Who Was Eating Up Her Wedding Fund, So She Revealed That She Made A Lot More Than Her Dad

by Michael Levanduski

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Marrying someone with adult children can be quite a blessing, but it can come with some challenges as well.

When the woman in this story’s stepkids implied that she was a gold digger, it undoubtedly hurt.

Don’t worry, she put them in their place.

Read on to see how she reacted and whether she is the AH of the situation.

AITA for telling my husband’s kids how broke he was when we met after they insinuated I was a gold digger?

I’ve (38F) been married to my husband Rob (52M) for 4 years now.

My husband’s late wife died 1 year before we met and we dated for 2 years before marriage.

He has 2 kids, Madison (28) and Brett (26). Note I am not calling them my stepkids because they explicitly told me I am not their stepmom, just their dad’s wife.

I didn’t play a part in raising them, so I’m ok with that.

It’s always been a tense between us, I’ve tried my best to be kind to them and have been generous when I can be, but they are very cold with me.

Being a child of divorce, I can partially relate to a parent moving on so I try not to force anything.

Oh boy, few things can cause family conflict faster than money.

Madison recently got engaged and we are excited about it.

Everyone was over recently and she asked about a wedding budget from us and Rob told her he was able to contribute 10k.

She has bigger hopes for her wedding than this so she was upset and kept asking for more. Rob, however, is still working hard on building his savings back up.

Before his late wife died, he basically wiped out his cash savings, had to cash out his 401k, and even took a small mortgage on his house to cover medical costs as well as life expenses since he had to cut back on working.

Eventually he had to drop that job for a more flexible but lower paying one, so this 10k is actually really generous from him.

Rob went to run an errand and it was just me and his kids. Madison then asked me if I’m going to give any in addition to what her dad is giving.

I told her were a marital unit and that’s what we discussed together as a reasonable amount to contribute.

Wow, Madison doesn’t have to be close with her dad’s wife, but she should be respectful!

She then said “I should have known, obviously you married an older man for what he had, not for what you could give”.

I knew she didn’t like me but this is the most flat out rude thing she ever said.

I kind of lost it and said “excuse me, who do you think has been paying the second mortgage your dad took out to pay his debts?”

Truth of the matter is I make more than her father by a large margin, I have no debt, and have been paying 70% of the household bills the whole time we’ve been married.

The 10k were giving her is available because I’ve been able to subsidize her father’s living expenses the last few years.

I made it clear that not only am I not a gold digger, Im literally wealthier than my “older husband”. She called me stuck up after this and stormed out.

Not only calling her a gold digger but also being deceptive to her dad? Not cool.

Then she called her dad later and said that I told her that I blamed her mother for being sick for her not having a better wedding budget.

I told him what happened and he was mad at her but also said I shouldn’t have shared his financial details with his kids.


Kids and step-parents don’t need to be best friends, but there has to be a level of respect.

Let’s see what other Redditors had to say about the situation.

Not sure I agree that the kids should know how much money their parents have, but I get the point.

Source: Reddit/AITAH

A $10k wedding gift is pretty generous and the daughter is still not happy?

Source: Reddit/AITAH

She didn’t share her husband’s finances, she shared her own (which happened to be combined).

Source: Reddit/AITAH

It is kind of ironic that someone who is asking for money calls someone else a gold digger.

Source: Reddit/AITAH

You don’t have to be close with your step-parent, but you do have to respect them.

Otherwise it’s going to be a long road.

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