Birthdays are supposed to be joyous occasions, but for this family, old grievances bubbled up before the party even started.

One wife knew no boundaries, one sister always asked for money, and one husband was just one conflict away from a meltdown.

Read on to find out how all these pieces fit together.

AITA for cancelling my wife’s birthday party after she called my sister a leech

My wife’s birthday party was suppose to be this Friday.

I actually wanted her present to be a surprise this year, but it is not uncommon that my wife will open an Amazon package thinking it was something else.

It obviously ruins the present surprise.

My sister and her do not have the best relationship and it is due to different values.

The biggest conflict between the two is how his sister handles money.

They basically disagree on everything, but the big thing that my wife hates is that my sister has asked for money or help.

We have a shared account and keep separate money.

He tries to help his sister out as often as he can.

I will lend my sister cash, but I haven’t had to do that in a while.

When I do, I lend her from my account, not the shared account. She also pays me back.

He tried his best to keep his wife’s gift a secret, but it isn’t long until she finds out about it.

So I sent my wife’s present to my sister’s house and was going to pick them up Thursday.

I got a text from my sister saying she got the package and my wife saw the text.

His wife misunderstood the text and launches into full-on insults about his sister.

She made a comment about giving handouts again.

She basically told me enough was enough and that I need to stop sending her stuff.

She called my sister a leech that can’t get her act together.

So he didn’t take this well at all.

This resulted in an argument and I told her that she was holding her birthday present, but I am returning them.

I am also canceling the dinner party.

Another big argument and I did cancel the plan and asked my sister to return the packages.

My wife is ticked at me and called me a jerk and I told her that this is her own fault.

The biggest surprise here is how quickly everything fell apart.

What did Reddit think?

This commenter has a few choice words for everyone involved.

This commenter has a thing or two to say about his wife’s boundaries (or lack thereof).

This user thinks he could have intervened sooner before the entire situation blew up the way it did.

From the outside looking in, this relationship doesn’t look very healthy.

Perhaps next year they’ll focus less on surprises and more on communication.

Birthdays come and go, but grudges have a way of sticking around.

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