Having a mental disorder is a challenge on its own, but dealing with people who lack empathy adds to the load.

In this case, a woman with bipolar disorder was planning her 40th birthday trip when an aunt made a rude comment attributing her plan to being “off her meds”.

Now she’s wondering if she should uninvite her aunt from the trip altogether.

Let’s analyze the situation.

WIBTA for uninviting my aunt from a trip after she said I’m “off my meds”?

I used to work in the tourism industry and would get awesome travel discounts for myself and a companion.

In 2019, I travelled with my aunt, and we had a great time.

We’re close—we talk almost daily—so traveling together felt natural.

But in 2020, I changed jobs and lost those discounts, which led me to start planning big trips every five years to make them extra special.

I just turned 39 and began organizing my 40th birthday trip, set for next year.

That’s a very significant milestone, and she wanted it to be as close to perfect as possible.

Originally, I suggested places like Iceland or a cruise. My aunt vetoed them all, saying she wanted a ship with a casino (not my thing).

Eventually, she seemed okay with a multi-city Europe trip—London, Amsterdam, parts of Germany, Switzerland, and Paris.

My sister liked those destinations but didn’t want a motorcoach tour, so I decided on a train-based itinerary.

I also invited other friends/family to join whichever legs they liked, since I’m paying full price now.

That sounds great, but things would soon get tense.

The conflict started when my mom mentioned that my aunt told her I must be “off my meds” for dreaming up such a plan.

Here’s where it stings: I have bipolar II, diagnosed 12 years ago.

I take medication and follow personal rules against impulsive decisions—I won’t jump into something major without months of thought.

Her aunt was very rude.

This trip is more than a year away, so there’s nothing rash about it.

But my family sometimes attributes any emotional moment on my part to me being “unstable,” while my sister can have a bad day and get full sympathy.

This is very common with people with mental disorders, and she doesn’t want to deal with that during her birthday trip.

I’m upset that my aunt gossiped about my mental health, especially since I’ve asked her not to share my private details.

She’s done it before, but this time calling me “off my meds” felt disrespectful and hurtful.

Now I’m thinking of uninviting her from the trip altogether.

That makes sense, but she is unsure about it.

On the one hand, it feels harsh because we’ve travelled together and I wanted everyone to have the option to join.

On the other hand, this is my birthday trip, I’m covering my own costs, and I don’t want to spend time with someone who dismisses my well-managed condition as “crazy.”

AITA?

Since it’s her birthday trip, she has the right to uninvite whoever makes her feel uncomfortable.

Let’s see what Reddit has to say about this.

A reader shares their thoughts.

This commenter expresses their opinion.

Yup.

Another reader chimes in.

This person has a different take.

Her aunt can taint the whole trip if she keeps acting this way.

It’s probably safer to uninvite her.

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