Trying to balance family expectations with personal desires can be a tightrope walk.

Despite one man’s clear wishes for a friends-only celebration, his parents barged in uninvited.

But when his partner asked them to leave, it lead to an uncomfortable situation that left tensions higher than ever.

Read on for the full story.

AITA for kicking my partners parents out at new year.

So, my partner’s birthday is on New Year’s Eve.

This year he turned 30.

His parents are very overbearing and have no boundaries.

This has made past parties a bit of a headache.

In the run-up to my partner’s birthday, they offered him a big party and several holiday ideas.

In the past, they had gone abroad for his birthday, and he had usually gone along with them but always felt that he wasn’t doing what he wanted.

So he knew exactly what he wanted this year.

This year, he clearly stated to them that he wanted to do family stuff during the day and have a fun party with friends leading into the New Year.

We did this last year, and he loved it.

The day got off to a bit of a rough start.

The day arrived, and as arranged, we spent most of the day with his parents.

His mom was very vocal about not expecting me to come along, which I ignored, as my partner was already upset about the plans his parents had made for lunch, etc.

But now they could finally start prepping for the fun.

We got through the day, and I frantically prepared for his party.

We had invited a select group of friends and made arrangements for everyone to contribute to food and drink.

It was also one of our guests’ birthdays on the 1st, so they all wanted to help.

The party was going well, and we were starting to play drinking games.

The vibe was fun.

But then a few unexpected guests waltzed through the door.

Then… my partner’s parents turned up, uninvited, with other family members (also uninvited).

They originally said, “We were local and thought we’d pop in,” so I thought it would be a half-hour pause on the party and then they’d leave us to it.

Spoiler alert: It wasn’t.

Three hours later, they had drank a lot of our booze, wiped out the buffet, and pushed our invited guests from the area we were all sitting in.

A few of our invited guests felt uncomfortable, and one of them left.

To be honest, I wanted to leave.

Obviously, I tried talking to my partner, which eventually led to an argument.

Then things really got messy.

After that, his dad point-blank asked if they were ruining the party, to which I answered honestly, and they left.

Luckily, we were able to save the party, but we now have animosity between his parents and me.

I’ve apologized to my partner, as it wasn’t his fault, but I’m left wondering, AITA here?

Trying to please everyone usually ends with no one being happy.

Let’s see what Reddit made of all this.

They may have thought they were protecting their partner, but they ended up just making things more difficult for everyone.

This user thinks the communication between parties leaves a lot to be desired.

Boundary setting is important and one partner can’t always be the “bad guy”.

Someone should be apologizing, but it’s not the party planner.

If he had only communicated with his family better, this entire situation might have been avoided.

It turns out, the best way to keep the peace is knowing when to say no.

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