She Uninvited One Mom From Their Annual Cabin Trip After Three Others Threatened Not to Go — Now She’s Accused of Picking Sides
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Sometimes trying to keep the peace means making decisions that other people aren’t going to like.
One woman organizes an annual cabin trip for a group of moms from her kids’ school.
This year, though, things got complicated because one woman in the group had a falling out with several of the others.
As she prepared to collect everyone’s money, three women privately told her they were uncomfortable going if that person came.
Since nobody had paid yet, she decided to withdraw the invitation before the trip fell apart. But, unfortunately, the woman didn’t take it well.
Read on to see what happened next.
AITA for uninviting someone from a weekend cabin trip after multiple people said they would drop out if she came?
I (34F) organize an annual weekend getaway for a group of moms from our kids’ school. There are usually seven or eight of us, and I handle reserving the house under my name.
A few months ago, when we started picking dates, everyone in our regular group chat was included, including “Kelly.”
Since then, Kelly has had major fallings out with two of the other women attending over some personal drama. Kelly is also known for being very confrontational when things get tense, so the dynamic in the wider group has been strained for weeks.
Suddenly, the calls started coming in.
Last week, as I was getting ready to collect everyone’s share for the deposit, three different women reached out to me privately.
Two said directly that they would not go if Kelly was sharing a house with them because of the hostility, and a third said she felt anxious about being stuck in an enclosed cabin given the bad blood.
Nobody had sent money yet, so nothing was finalized. I felt stuck between losing half the group or having a miserable, volatile weekend.
Kelly did not take it well.
I decided to call Kelly directly.
I tried to be gentle and explained that, given the current tension with a couple of the attendees, sharing close quarters probably wasn’t going to be enjoyable for anyone and that it would be best if she sat this specific trip out.
Kelly completely blew up. She called me a two-faced coward, accused me of picking sides in drama that had nothing to do with me, and said withdrawing an invite is petty middle-school bullying.
Now, other friends are taking Kelly’s side.
Her argument was that she had done nothing wrong to me personally, and if the other women had an issue being around her, they should be the ones to stay home.
Since then, she has made several comments to mutual friends that I singled her out and excluded her unfairly.
A couple of outside friends told me that once an invite is out, taking it back is inherently rude and creates unnecessary hostility, while the women coming on the trip insist I just handled a bad situation before money was spent.
AITA?
Eek! It’s easy to see why she did that, but there must’ve been a better way to handle this.
Let’s see what the lovely readers over at Reddit would’ve done in this situation.
This reader wants to know what Kelly did.
Here’s someone who thinks she should’ve done the opposite.
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According to this comment, she did pick sides.
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This reader thinks she made the right call.
She definitely chose a side here.
The other women said they wouldn’t go if Kelly came, and instead of letting them make that choice, she uninvited Kelly.
That may have saved the trip, but it also made Kelly the one person who had to lose out.
If she’s comfortable with that decision, there’s no problem. BUT, she should at least own what it was.
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